Resources
Not sure where to begin?
Many people come to therapy unsure whether what they lived through counts, or unsure how to name it.
If that is you, you do not need to figure it out first. The readings below are a place to begin at your own pace, without urgency or pressure.
Readings to start with
These are not assignments or diagnoses. They’re educational resources meant to support clarity, self-trust, and understanding.
Examines why emotional neglect is often minimized or dismissed, and how subtle absence can still have lasting effects.
Explores how early emotional absence can shape self-trust, emotional clarity, and adult relationships, even when there is no clear story of harm.
An overview of how narcissistic and coercive dynamics undermine self-trust over time, why they’re so hard to name, and why the confusion that follows is not a personal failure.
Looks at why reasonable limits can bring up guilt, fear, or the urge to explain yourself, particularly after emotionally unsafe or controlling environments.
Explores how coercive or invalidating relationships and emotional neglect erode self-trust over time, even in capable, self-aware adults.
Explains why insight alone doesn’t shift patterns shaped by emotional neglect or coercive relationships, and why change requires nervous-system safety.
Want more? View all readings.
Related Experiences Often Named by Clients​
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These pages describe common experiences that bring people to therapy, often shaped by emotionally unsafe, neglectful, or controlling relational environments.​
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Anxiety and Depression after emotionally unsafe relationships
Grief after emotional neglect or relational loss
Relationship difficulties shaped by control or emotional invalidation
Low Self-Esteem shaped by emotional neglect or chronic criticism
Crisis and immediate support
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If you are in immediate danger or need urgent support, the resources below can help right away.
My work is not designed for emergency situations, and these services are better equipped to support you in those moments.
If you are not in immediate danger but feel unsettled or emotionally activated, one or two of the options below may help in the moment.
• Pause and orient to your surroundings. Name five things you can see, four you can feel, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste.
• Remind yourself: This reaction makes sense given what I’ve experienced. I am not doing anything wrong.
