Trauma Therapy for
Emotionally Unsafe Relationships
Rebuild Self-Trust. Stop Second-Guessing Yourself.
For adults who find themselves overthinking, seeking reassurance, or questioning whether they're the problem in emotionally unsafe relationships.
In-person in Scottsdale • Telehealth across AZ, CA, MA and TX
Whether you're still in the relationship, questioning what happened, or rebuilding after leaving, therapy can help you reconnect with yourself and trust your own judgment again.
You may have found this page because of anxiety, overthinking, people-pleasing, or persistent self-doubt. You may replay conversations, seek reassurance, question your perceptions, or feel responsible for other people's emotional responses.
These patterns can develop in response to emotionally unsafe or invalidating relationships and can persist long after the relationship has changed or ended.
Insight matters, but lasting change comes from responding differently when these patterns show up in real time.
In-person in Scottsdale, Arizona • Telehealth across Arizona, California, Massachusetts and Texas
$200 / 55 minutes • depth-oriented trauma treatment • In-network with Aetna (other plans private pay; superbills available)
How the work typically unfolds
We begin by building enough stability that therapy feels manageable rather than overwhelming. From there, we identify the patterns that keep you questioning yourself and work with them as they happen in real time.
My work is grounded in attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and relational trauma research, integrating EMDR, IFS, and nervous system-based approaches when helpful.
Certified EMDR Therapist • IFS Level 2 • EFT Advanced Core Skills • DBR Level 3
When Understanding Isn't Enough
Many of the people I work with have already spent years trying to understand what happened. They've read the books, listened to the podcasts, and talked it through with people they trust. What often remains unchanged is their ability to trust themselves while life is actually happening. That's the work we do together.
When something feels off, but you can’t quite explain why
What it feels like
You may doubt your perceptions in relationships, even when something clearly feels off.
You may hesitate to set boundaries or feel chronically tense, despite appearing capable and grounded in other areas of your life.
Why it makes sense
These patterns often develop in emotionally unsafe relationships, where your reality was minimized, overridden, or emotionally unsupported.
What once helped you stay connected or avoid conflict can continue long after the original situation has passed.
Those adaptations were protective. Therapy helps you recognize when they take over, so you can respond more intentionally rather than automatically falling back into them.
What changes in therapy
Over time, you begin recognizing when something feels off without automatically turning it against yourself.
You stop over-explaining, stop searching for reassurance, and become more confident responding to relationships as they're happening instead of trying to make sense of them afterward.
This work may be a good fit if you
Doubt your perceptions, minimize what happened, or feel chronically on edge in relationships
Have been impacted by emotionally unsafe relationships, including emotional neglect, controlling dynamics, or chronic invalidation
Want therapy that moves carefully and does not push emotional exposure
Seek depth-oriented work rather than quick coping tools or a highly directive program
Have spent years trying to understand yourself but still find yourself asking other people whether your reactions make sense.
Working Together
I work with adults recovering from emotionally unsafe relationships, including emotional neglect, controlling dynamics, and relational patterns that can undermine self-trust.