You may have found this page because of anxiety, overthinking, people-pleasing, or a persistent sense of self-doubt.
Many people assume these are standalone problems. Often they are patterns that developed after emotionally unsafe or invalidating relationships.
You may notice things like second-guessing your memory, replaying conversations, feeling unsettled after interactions, hesitating to trust your perceptions, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotional responses.
Insight alone is rarely enough.
How Therapy Creates Lasting Change
Understanding these patterns matters. Lasting change comes from responding to them differently as they happen.
You stop replaying conversations to figure out whether your reactions made sense.
You notice when something feels wrong without automatically assuming you're the problem.
You make decisions without needing days of reassurance that you chose correctly.
In-person in Scottsdale, AZ • Telehealth across AZ, CA, MA and TX
$200 / 55 minutes • depth-oriented trauma treatment • In-network with Aetna (other plans private pay; superbills available)
How the work typically unfolds
We begin by building enough stability that therapy does not feel overwhelming or destabilizing.
From there, we focus on identifying the patterns that maintain self-doubt and difficulty trusting your internal experience as they happen in real time.
My work is grounded in attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and relational trauma research, integrating EMDR, IFS, and nervous system-based approaches when helpful.
Certified EMDR Therapist • IFS Level 2 • EFT Advanced Core Skills • DBR Level 3
Many of the people I work with have already spent years trying to understand what happened. They've read the books, listened to the podcasts, and talked it through with people they trust. What often remains unchanged is their ability to trust themselves while life is actually happening. That's the work we do together.
My role isn't to decide what happened for you. It's to help you understand your experience clearly enough that you no longer need someone else's certainty to trust yourself.
My work focuses on how emotionally unsafe relationships shape your ability to trust your internal experience.
Together we pay attention to the moments you begin doubting yourself, second-guessing your perceptions, or overriding your instincts so your relationship with those experiences can begin to change, not just your understanding of why they developed.
When something feels off, but you can’t quite explain why
What it feels like
You may doubt your perceptions in relationships, even when something clearly feels off. You may hesitate to set boundaries or feel chronically tense, despite appearing capable and grounded in other areas of your life.
Why it makes sense
These patterns often develop in emotionally unsafe relationships, where your reality was minimized, overridden, or emotionally unsupported. What once helped you stay connected or avoid conflict can continue long after the original situation has passed.
Those adaptations were protective. Therapy helps you recognize them while they're happening so they no longer determine how you relate to yourself or the people around you.
What changes in therapy
Over time, you begin recognizing when something feels off without automatically turning it against yourself. You stop over-explaining, stop searching for reassurance, and become more confident responding to relationships as they're happening instead of trying to make sense of them afterward.
This work may be a good fit if you
– Doubt your perceptions, minimize what happened, or feel chronically on edge in relationships
– Have been impacted by emotionally unsafe relationships, including emotional neglect or controlling relationships
– Want therapy that moves carefully and does not push emotional exposure
– Seek depth-oriented work rather than quick coping tools or a highly directive program
- Have spent years trying to understand yourself but still find yourself asking other people whether your reactions make sense.
Working Together
I work with adults recovering from emotionally unsafe relationships, including emotional neglect, controlling dynamics, and relational patterns that undermine self-trust.
Whether you're still in the relationship or rebuilding afterward, therapy focuses on helping you recognize when self-doubt takes over so you can respond from your own experience rather than automatically questioning it.